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Tuesday, March 4th, 2008 |
by David Cameron Gikandi
You worry because you worry. Does that make sense? You create your world by your thoughts, words, and actions. Worry creates that which is worried about. You worry about things because you worry about things. People worry because they think it helps. It actually does the opposite. It creates the very problem itself. Panic and worry don’t help; they hinder. How would you like to learn how to stop worrying and start living, very easily? It can be done, simply.
Here are the guidelines to follow:
Recognize when you are anxious and identify the panic triggers. The next time you feel anxiety, stop and ask yourself, “Whattriggered this anxiety? What thoughts did I just have that triggered it? What kind of situation triggered it?” Identify all the panic triggers in as much detail as possible.
Be aware of your thoughts, the situation, how you perceive the situation (your perception of the situation is often very different from the situation itself), the emotions, and the bodily sensations you have (where do you feel the anxiety, how does it feel like in your body, how does it move, what is its temperature and texture, how big does it feel, and so on). This is most important: note all your observations down on paper!
Look at your notes. First, look at all the physical and emotional sensations you noted down. These are the easiest to deal with. You see, you may not have considered this up until this moment, but you have a fear of experiencing these sensations (e.g. the coldness you feel, the heart palpitations, the feeling of being enclosed, and so on). Sometime in your past, a real event occurred where you felt these things, and in that real event there may have been real danger imminent.
Your nervous system therefore associated these feelings and physical sensations with danger. Now, even when there is no real danger, when your mind imagines a similar situation, it adds imagined danger to it, and your nervous and emotional system reacts just as if the danger was real. You then get the emotions and sensations all over again, and you believe you are in danger. You are not in danger this time around.
Stop now and notice that all around you everything is OK. Any danger that you may perceive is in your mind, in some projected future. You may be convinced of it, sure that you are right, that the danger will come.
But stop and notice that you are safe, now. Then, as you feel these sensations and emotions (and that is why you have to do this exercise in the moment, when you are in the panic, not later), tell yourself that even if your skin feels cold, you are here, now, OK, whole. Look around you and notice the world is still the same, you are still the same.
Allow yourself to feel the sensations and emotions, and get used to them. You see, in the past you may have been trying to escape them, avoid them, just as you would try to escape danger. Now, notice that you don’t need to escape anything. You can feel the cold, the trembling, the palpitations, the fear, and still everything is OK. Allow yourself to feel and notice it is still OK.
Before you resisted, now allow. Get comfortable with the sensations and emotions by naming them, looking at them directly and naming them. And as you do this, make a conscious decision to keep breathing normally, deeply, calmly, deep into your lungs and belly and back out, not forced but comfortably. This will assist greatly because many of your panic patterns are anchored in the shallow breathing pattern that you get into when you panic. Do all this and you will see that within minutes, you will have a smile. You will step out of the hypnotic trance of panic and into the real world.
Next, look at the situations that are triggering your panic. For example, if you panic whenever you have a low bank balance or you get a bill that is too high or whatever, take responsibility and see how you can change these situations. For example, you may decide to start saving a percentage of your money, never touching it under any condition, so that even when you are “broke”, you still have some savings (of course, you don’t use these savings up to make “emergency” bill payments or whatever, you keep them to invest).
The point will be for you to start to feel safe again when you don’t have spending money or money for bills or whatever, because you know if worst came to worst, you have your savings and investments. You can use this prop until your relax completely, which will happen naturally over time. Or, if you panic whenever you get your phone bill because it is too high, choose to start changing your phone usage patterns and carriers and so on so that your bill drops. In summary, change the lifestyle factors and situations that are contributing to your anxiety.
(In truth, it is your perception of these situations and factors that is causing the anxiety, not the situations and factors themselves, but sometimes it is difficult to see that when you are in it, and so it is easier to change the situations and factors. Anxiety is a choice of perception, and that is why some people are highly anxious about a thing while others see the exact same thing as nothing to even think about, let alone worry and get stressed.)
Change unhelpful thinking styles. Thought is the first level at which your panic starts. Remember how we said that anxiety, panic, is a choice of perception? This is why you need to change unhelpful thinking styles. Here are some guidelines you can use:
Recognize limiting, fearful thoughts that you have. Then, challenge them for evidence. Before you used to take them as facts. This time, challenge them for evidence in the real world not evidence in your imagination, but in the real world). Get other people’s perspectives, preferably people outside of your family (people in a family tend to think alike on some core issues) and outside of your closest friends circle.
Do your own testing as well by choosing not to run away but to get involved in that which you feared and acting and seeing what happens (e.g. if you ran away each time a creditor called you and you avoided your phone, pick it up this time, tell your truth, negotiate and see what happens – challenge your fears and get your own evidence).
Substitute your fearful, limiting thoughts with loving, supportive, expanding thoughts. Just do it until it becomes habit. At first it will require vigilance and effort but soon it will take on its own life. Remember, substitute but don’t fight. Never fight yourself. You can allow the fearful thought to drifty if you notice it. Don’t fight it but don’t engage it and start running with it. Instead, watch it come and allow it to move on, and meanwhile, put in your own loving, supportive thought. Don’t resist, allow, but add your own.
Avoid black and white thinking (e.g. “It is either I get this check paid or am in a real mess!”).
Avoid generalizing (e.g. “All landlords are out to get their money on time or else they kick you out. All debt collectors don’t understand human situations.”)
Avoid magnifying or focusing on the negative or the unpleasant, on what you don’t want. What you focus on is what you manifest. And by the way, your fears are always much bigger than the reality. Now that you know that, stop doing it; it doesn’t serve you and you are simply wasting your attention and denying your own power. Put your attention instead on what feels good, what you wish to have and it shall be so.
Avoid overestimating failure and underestimating success. You are far more successful than you think, but you may tend to be ignoring recognizing your successes and focusing and blowing up your perceived failures. For whatever reason (shame, fear of embarrassment, egoistical superhuman/subhuman self-image, superiority/inferiority complex, etc), you may be focusing on what you perceive to be failures and overestimating the imagined future ones even, and doing the opposite with your successes. There is no failure, only successive moments of learning before mastery is achieved. No one starts out perfect.
We all learnt to walk by falling several times. If we gave up, we would never walk. Thomas Edison tried about 10,000 different “failed”experiments before he discovered the right material for the light bulb. It is part of nature. If you think failure exists, then you are under some superman/subhuman delusion. “Failure” is natural, it is the way we learn what works and what doesn’t, and everybody and everything has these learning experiences; you are not the only one or only thing. Even your cat or dog has them so take it easy on yourself.
Avoid setting unrealistic expectations and then beating yourself up for it when you cant, naturally, meet them. Life has processes and you can’t go around the process. Before you set yourself an expectation, if you must, then look at the process involved (the truth about it, not just what you imagine it to be) and see what it takes and how long and so on.
If you just pull a date out of your behind, to get to something you have no clue as to what intakes, and then assume your date is correct and your preparations adequate, and then beat yourself up for it for “failing”, you will of course look at yourself poorly and panic. Be reasonable, and all things are possible.
Avoid taking responsibility for other people’s feelings and thoughts. Look, you cannot possibly get into the mind of anyone and force him or her to have a particular thought. It is impossible. You can influence, cajole or whatever, but you can’t make them think in a certain way. Similarly, you can’t make them feel a particular emotion. These are all their own choices.
They will perceive the world as they choose to, and will think and feel as they choose to. You cannot live your life trying to please everyone. Even the most popular figures such as Buddha, Jesus, Gandhi, Kennedy… people who had many people liking them, even they couldn’t get everyone to like them or agree with them so why would you assume you can achieve this impossible feat? Be responsible for your own thoughts and feelings and let everyone else be responsible for theirs.
That will relieve you a lot of stress, the stress of trying to be the general manager of the universe. How can you be responsible for what you cannot affect, the thoughts and feelings of others? Be loving, be fair, but honor your thoughts and feelings and leave others to theirs. You can’t take away their life lessons.
Avoid assuming and “mind reading” others thoughts (e.g. “I did this, and he must have thought this and that and so I should do this now to fix that. ”) Look, you can be intuitive, yes, but intuition is a far cry from the assumptions and mind reading that many people go around trying to do. Just because someone looked at you a certain way doesn’t mean he knows you haven’t paid your mortgage this month and it doesn’t mean he thinks you are a badperson or a failure or whatever.
The person may have been reacting to his or her own life issues and in that reaction they had a certain face. The face wasn’t meant for you. Most people are concerned about themselves, just like you are. They don’t go-around looking and analyzing your life; you do that well enough on your own.
When you walk around assuming people are thinking this or that about you, you will end up walking in stress, reacting to your own assumptions, and the more you do it the more you bring it out, until you do something in the real world that manifests your fears (e.g. you attack someone in a certain way, having believed your mental assumptions, and this person now has to react back to your attack, or you act and speak or dress in ascertain way based on your “mind reading” and the other person is forced now to respond to that, making it real).
Intuition is the communication from Spirit in a loving, non-divisive, supportive way, and it is always true and accurate, otherwise it wouldn’t becalmed intuition (it would be called guesswork). Assumption, mind reading, on the other hand, is your own internal judgments on yourself by yourself, based on what you fear and in an attempt to avoid what you fear, and these judgments you then project out into the world and give them the voice and body of other people to make them real.
Sure, some people will truly think negatively of you, but most of the time its only happening in your thoughts. And even if they do think ill of you, so what? They are reacting to their own issues, you can’t change that, you can’t have everyone like and agree with you, and it doesn’t affect you at all unless you choose it to.
As you can see, panic is a direct result of the thinking style you apply and how you interpret the feedback (your perception style). And you can change your thinking style and your perception.
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Tuesday, March 4th, 2008 |
by David Cameron Gikand
Anthony Robbins’ 12 Reasons Why Most People Don’t Get Wealthy
According to Wallace Wattles, in his popular wealth creation book called the Science of Getting Rich, said that, “There is a science of getting rich, and it is an exact science, like algebra or arithmetic. There are certain laws which govern the process of acquiring riches, and once these laws are learned and obeyed by anyone, that person will get rich with mathematical certainty.”
It is true. Those who make wealth know that it comes about by application of simple rules and principles. Those who don’t make wealth don’t know about these simple things, and so they assume that wealth is a result of luck or pure chance or something just as superstitious or silly.
Anthony Robbins is one of the top success coaches in the world, having coached star sports players, heads of states and Fortune500 executives. In his Get The Edge program, he listed down 12specific reasons he has come to observe to be the leading causes for most people’s lack of wealth. Here they are:
1.They never decide and really define, very specifically, what wealth means for them. The keyword here is specifically. Can you imagine how hard it would be to build a car or a plane without making a blueprint or sketch drawings of it first? You have to know what your target is before you go chasing after it.
2.They make wealth a moving target instead of a fixed one (this is related to point one above). Once you have your target, fix it. Don’t change it until you reach it. You must accomplish each step, celebrate, and then set course for a new step, a new target.
3.They define it in a way that seems unreachable. You only achieve what you believe. No more, no less. So you must make it believable for you. Set goals that will make you move forward and stretch, but not too high that even you yourself don’t believe you can. Take the biggest step you believe you can, achieve it, then take the next biggest you believe you can. This will build positive reinforcement in your self-confidence as well.
4.They never start. Ok, this is obvious. If you keep thinking about it forever, it will forever remain in the thought level. You have to act! Start somewhere, anywhere! Only after you start do you begin to get some feedback which will help you plot your course better. The aircraft has to first take off before it starts to adjust course for its destination. You must start, some where, anywhere, doesn’t matter, just start! Act!
5.They never make it a must. Let me explain what it means to make it a must. It means marshalling all your intent, your will, your direction, into one singular flow that is directed towards your goal. All obstacles are viewed as challenges to be overcome. You will meet obstacles, and so expect it, but also expect to move forward anyways. Use your obstacles to develop strength and skills, don’t run away. Find out how to go past them. Find out! There is always a way, always. And if your emotions are acting against your desire, embrace them, learn what they are, know yourself, but keep moving forward. Make it a must, and it will happen. Guaranteed. You don’t know in how many steps it will take, but you know it will happen.
6.They don’t have a realistic plan. If you want to do something, find out how it is done from someone who has done it before. Make a realistic plan. Copy from those who have succeeded before you. But don’t throw away your intuition. Your intuition is extremely powerful once you learn how to listen to it with practice.
7.If they have a realistic plan, they never follow through on the plan. Well, if you don’t follow the plan, who will?
8.They give responsibility to others (”experts”) instead of to themselves. This way, they never really learn how to do it, and if there are failures they never learn why the failures happened and so they are bound to repeat them. It is a good idea to get advice, but do it yourself. At least understand it yourself even if you will delegate the actual doing.
9.They give up when they face challenges. Going through the challenges is what has made people rich, not giving up. Look, there are always challenges. So get used to that. You will only get where you wish to get to if you are willing to face the challenges along the path. All challenges are opportunities dressed in work clothes, remember that. After the challenge is over, you will discover the amazing fruit it held for you.
10.They fail to conduct their lives as a business; they never ensure that they make a profit year by year. Get a personal finance package like Quicken or Microsoft Money. you need to have budgets and cash flow statements for your personal finances and your businesses. It is easy with those software packages. If you don’t keep records and track, you wont know when you are making or losing money until it is embarrassingly too late.
11.They allow other people’s ideas to affect their decisions unreasonably. There will always be people who don’t believe in your way, or who are pessimistic, who try to pull you down, or whatever. And they will sometimes be your closest friends and family. You cannot change that - they have a right to be who they are. It is OK. Allow them their thoughts, don’t judge them for that, but don’t feel obligated to accept their thoughts of follow their way. Don’t allow other people, now or from the past, unreasonably affect your decisions. Allow them their way, and you live your way.
12.They don’t get quality coaching. This is extremely important! Coaching is simply getting mentored by someone who has succeeded wildly in the area of your interest. Get coaching! Our education system hardly equips us for real life, so don’t assume that because you went to college you are properly equipped. Hardly. You need to keep learning. The most successful people attend seminars, read books, join mastermind groups and clubs, find mentors, network, and even hire expensive personal coaches to make sure they succeed.
How many of these reasons can you identify with? Well, now that you see the reasons, you now can look at yourself and make sure that you don’t follow ways that are known to not lead to wealth. Follow what works and it will work. And don’t forget to enjoy yourself along the way.
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Monday, March 3rd, 2008 |
by David Cameron Gikandi
We live in a culture where the cultural story tells us, “Go to school so that you can get a job so that you can make money. And after working for forty years you can retire and live well.” It is the cultural story, we are told it by our parents, friends, teachers, government … But how true is it today?
The evidence on the ground shows us that work does not necessarily equal wealth. Most people are not wealthy; they work long hours and have little to show for it, that is the fact. And when they retire, they don’t usually get the rosy picture the cultural story tries to portray; instead they get to survive on a meager pension.
So what happened? Why is the information we are getting not getting us the desires we are having, as far as wealth goes? Why is it only a few people who seem to get wealthy and financially free, and why is it that the knowledge they seem to have appears to be so elusive? The answer is simple.
The education system in place today was created in the 1800s. It was designed to give people the skills to work in industries, offices, and so on. It teaches working skills, not wealth-building skills. Even today, you will learn a lot in school, but one thing you will not usually learn is how to get wealthy and financially independent.
All they tell you is, “Study these skills, get a job, and you will get paid.” If you go to school to learn to be a doctor, they teach you how to be a doctor, but not how to create wealth. If you learn how to be a chef, you will learn that, but not how to create wealth. Do you see the picture now? The masses are not taught how to create wealth.
They are taught how to have the skills to work for others or for themselves, but not how to create wealth and financial freedom. For all intents and purposes, the vast majority of them are attempting to create wealth without a clue of how it is done. There is nothing wrong with them; they are just not equipped to achieve the goal they set. You always have to have the right equipment.
Here is a quick list of the main laws of accumulating wealth:
1. A part of all you earn is yours to keep. If you give away (spend, buy stuff, pay taxes, whatever) everything that you earn and are left with nothing, you will obviously not accumulate anything. So, ensure that, no matter what, a part of all that you earn is yours to keep, not to be spent on bills, purchases, taxes, or anything else that doesn’t earn you more money. You must start keeping (saving) at least 10% of all that you earn. Pay yourself first.
2. Which leads us to the next point. Control your expenditures so that you are able to keep at least 10% of all that you earn and you are able to live without running out of money, the financial blood of any financial system. The only way you can do this is if you know what your money is doing, where it comes from, where it goes.
You must start keeping records, specifically a budget, an income and expense statement, and a cash flow statement. You don’t need to be an accountant at all, or even close. You can do all this automatically with very affordable software such as Microsoft Money or Quicken.
3. Once you have started saving at least 10% of all that you earn, you must make it multiply, bear children, grow, and work for you to make you more money. This is where you begin to multiply your money. You let your money bear more of its own kind - more money! In other words, invest it well and it will make you more money than you can possibly do yourself.
And when your investments bear fruit, don’t eat all the fruit! Re-invest most of your investment gains back again - this is the only way it will grow in leaps and bounds. By the way, invest in high return investments. Get yourself at least 20% annual compound returns. They are easy to get and they are safe.
4. Preserve your capital. You cannot grow anything if you will be losing your capital. Now, understand that it is the nature of money that you will win some and lose some. No one, not even the greatest investor in the world, can guarantee success 100% of the time. Accept this fact and relax. However, you can put in place strategies to ensure that your capital losses are mathematically managed so that they are easily offset by your gains.
This is the area of money management and asset protection, and we will look at it later in more detail. Also, it goes without saying that if you wish to preserve your capital, don’t get into anything before you have studied it to know and understand why and how it works. “Investing” your money based on hot tips, stuff you saw on TV, your cousins chat with you last weekend…. that will get you into trouble.
Find out for yourself first; do your research, and don’t just take what the “experts” say. Get in there, get involved, get your hands dirty, and find out for yourself. If you don’t want to do that, then the only other way out is to get a very well qualified advisor with a proven, verifiable success track record in that particular field to tell you what to do and what not to do. Don’t just get any advisor out of the yellow pages and go with them without checking their performance record and references and so on.
5. If you have a home on mortgage, which many people do, convert it into a profitable investment. As it is, most people hold homes that are actually liabilities to themselves and assets to the bank.
6. Insure a future income. Structure your financial affairs so that you progressively systemize the making of money and wealth. This will free you from having to be present or having to hold a job. You will have created a system whereby your money works for you and brings you both cash flow to use now and when you retire, if you wish to retire, and ever-increasing wealth.
7. Increase your ability to earn more. You will always earn based on what you know, what you are aware of. If you are not aware of a certain opportunity, you will not even recognize it. So, increase your ability to earn by making it a habit to continuously upgrade your knowledge. Over half of all Americans hardly read a book after they finish college.
Of course they will be stuck in time if they aren’t making any mental progress. They will be stuck in a day that seems the same, the same old same old, a day that seems to repeat itself. You must upgrade your knowledge consistently - we live in a universe where change is the only constant. You have to move with the cheese. Gain financial intelligence and financial responsibility.
8. Cut your taxes down to about 10% of your income. For most people, taxes are the biggest expenditure they face. Most people pay almost 50% of their income in taxes (income tax, corporate tax, sales tax, fuel tax, and all the other taxes they pay all add up to almost half their income).
If you can put in place strategies to save you about 30 - 90% of the taxes you are presently paying, and this is what most wealthy people do, you will have a lot of money left over to invest. Mathematically, our economies can do very well with 10% taxes. The reason why we pay so much is government mismanagement, waste and expenditures that don’t make sense.
9. Have multiple streams of independent income. This doesn’t mean having many jobs. It means creating income streams that are independent of you. This gives you free time, more money to invest, and the ability to earn from one income stream when another may be down.
The cycles of money are that you have up time and down times, and multiple income streams enable you to insulate yourself from the downtimes (or even profit from them) and take advantage of the uptimes in many different areas.
10. Avoid bad debt (debt that harms you) and use good debt (leverage) to help you grow in leaps and bounds. Have compound interest on your side, not against you.
11. Create automatic money systems. These will give your finances a life of its own. It will become a self-maintaining perpetual system with a strong foundation and ability to grow. Some of the systems you will need to create are an automatic saving and investment system, automatic debt reduction system, automatic giving system, automatic personal finance management system, and so on.
These things are all easy to put in place. All you need is to look at the right information and apply it. It is simple, but you do need to change the contents of your mind. The thinking that got you where you are now is not the same thinking that will get you somewhere else; it will be a different thinking. You will need to acquire new information and apply it and that’s it.
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